Type 1: They are compelled to control everything (and everyone) externally. They have an internal standard that compels them to change their environment.  You can’t just do what they want, you have to do it how they want it, and when they want it.

Know someone like this?

What’s crazy is that these people are just as hurt (and potentially hurtful) as the less-famous second type.

Type 2: They are compelled to control everything inside of them. They  are compelled to force-fit themselves into whatever is going on externally. They’ll do what you want, how you want it, and when you want it.

Not typically what you think of when you think “control freak,” is it?

I’m a type 2, for sure.

Here’s a great, raw testimony of a Type 2. She puts it well, “Outward control freaks boss others around in an effort to try to be safe. Inner control freaks boss themselves around.” 

Compels me to extend more grace. To others, and to myself.